Are you afraid of success?

Written by  Wednesday, 13 March 2019 12:28

Are You Afraid of Success?



A fear of success might sound counterintuitive, but it’s very common, and it doesn’t have to consume your life.

 

It’s simple. A lot of us are qualified, capable, and driven enough to keep learning and furthering our skills, but a fear of the unknown paralyzes us whenever opportunities present themselves.

 

Maybe your reasons for not starting a business or pursuing a career path that interests you are completely justified though.

 

It could be that you have worked really hard at striking a healthy balance between work and time with family, and a new position threatens to take that away from you.

 

Or maybe you are just unsure of the next move to make. That’s pretty normal after all.

 

This is where you need to be really honest with yourself and ask the hard questions like:

 

  • Is my decision not to pursue my passion in [insert job title here] the result of fear in one of its many forms?

  • Am I willing to be miserable in the known versus momentarily terrified in the unknown?

  • Am I afraid that this position will show me how little I actually know about my profession?

  • Am I afraid of working hard? I mean, to be successful one has to work hard after all.

 

The point is this: be extremely honest with yourself and ask the questions that you need to ask to break yourself out of self-deception mode.

 

Oh yeah, and one more thing...quit trying to control what you can’t control, already!

 

Don’t Stress About What You Can’t Control

 

First of all, let’s assume your passion in life is something that you can’t really control. You have interests and passions that were cultivated by myriad genetic and environmental factors, and you couldn’t turn those interests off if you wanted to (why would you want to!?)

 

In that sense, why fight them? Why purposefully move away from what you love to do? Why not follow that stream and see where it takes you?

 

Yes, financial reasons. Yes, circumstances and responsibilities and family and friends...those are all extremely valid things to consider.

 

But let’s say you have decided you’re miserable where you’re at. You are financially stable enough and ready to move. Yet you are too terrified to surrender to the unknown because it makes you uncomfortable...it’s something that you can’t control.

 

My advice is to let yourself relinquish control. Stop trying to have a neat explanation and answer to every little outcome and just follow your passion. Use your passion as an example, a guiding light that you can lean on whenever you’re terrified and life throws obstacles your way.

 

Once you’re ready and have the means, there’s no excuse. It takes practice and courage on a continual basis, but you’ll eventually get comfortable with not being in control.

 

Beating Impostor Syndrome

 

Impostor syndrome is that voice in your head telling you that you aren’t good enough for a promotion or position. Or that at any moment someone is going to stand up at a meeting and point to you, loudly proclaiming that you have been pretending to work since day one and that you don’t belong with the organization.

 

Paradoxically, it is often the smartest, most talented people who suffer from impostor syndrome.

 

This doesn’t meant that you aren’t capable or talented if you don’t suffer from impostor syndrome though! Chances are you have learned the self-confidence and perspective needed to quiet the harmful inner-monologue that often runs rampant with negativity.

 

But for those who are still having a hard time quieting the self-doubt, just recognize it and understand that you hold yourself to a very high standard. This makes you better at your job but also means you are harsh towards yourself.

 

Keep the intensity that makes you such a hard worker, but at the same time, go easy on yourself and trust that you’re qualified to do what you do. A lot of people are faking it until they make it anyways! Cut yourself some slack.

 

And speaking of hard work. You really do need to work hard to be successful. And if the prospect of working intensely scares you, that is a very real reason why you are afraid to succeed. Because success often equates to hard work.

 

Hard Work: Get Used to It!

 

Yes, even your favorite activity in the world will feel like work. That quote about finding what you love to do and never working a day in your life is a nice sentiment, but not quite correct.

 

And that’s completely fine!

 

But telling yourself that one day you’ll find the time to get around to writing that novel or owning your own business is just you avoiding what you could have already started yesterday (most likely at least!).

 

Most people are just afraid of working hard.  Don't’ be that person!

 

When it comes to your future, you need to invest the time and effort into it, whenever you have the free time to give (which is more often than you might be aware).

 

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